What to do if you suspect a child is being sexually assaulted/abused

Here are a few important things to remember:
  • Believe. Validate. Empower
  • No matter what, the sexual assault was not their fault
  • The responsibility of the assault falls on the offender, not the survivor
  • Their feelings, emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and physical changes are common responses to a traumatic event
  • A person under the age of 17 cannot consent to sexual activity
  • It is not your job to decide whether abuse has occurred or not but rather to keep children safe and report any suspicions.
What to do:
  • Talk with the child: Be sure to believe, validate and empower the child. Create a non-judgmental space for the child where you are approaching the conversation in an open and positive manner. Be sure to ask open-ended questions and use language the child is using. Reassure the child that they are not going to get in trouble for disclosing and that they did nothing wrong.
  • Believe: Believe what the child is telling you, and let the child know you believe them. 
  • Validate: Be sure to validate the child. Let the child know they did the right thing for telling you, that it was not their fault, overall validate the feelings they are sharing.
  • Empower: Ask the child what they need from you. Power and control is taken away in abuse, it is important to give them back control on future situations.
  • Report the abuse: If you have any suspicion that a child is being sexually abused, report this to The Illinois Child Abuse Hotline at 800-25-ABUSE (22873). You also have the option to contact the local police department.
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