Believe: Believe what the survivor is telling you, and let the child know you believe them.
Validate: Be sure to validate the survivor. Let the child know they did the right thing for telling you, that it was not their fault, overall validate the feelings they are sharing.
Empower: Ask the survivor what they need from you. Power and control is taken away in abuse, it is important to give them back control on future situations.
Find information to support yourself and your child: Finding resources to best support you and your child on their road to recovery (local rape crisis center, police department, DCFS, doctor, hospital)
It is important to take care of yourself. It can be helpful to recognize the shock you may also be experiencing
Maintain routines and return to your family’s usual activities as soon as possible. Don’t become too protective of your child
Pay attention to the needs of other children in your household. Give them the information and support they need.
Discuss your feelings with someone you trust, such as a friend, relative or counselor. This is not a time for you to be “tough.” It is a good time to seek support for yourself.